Sue,
I think you are going into into this reconciliation process with a great, realistic head on your shoulders. If you had said you were immediately in love again...than there might be evidence of a little denial.
But the fact that you admit that those feelings still need to grow is just a great example of how this reconciliation stands a fighting chance. You have to go back to these things being honest with yourself...and it sounds like you are. I hope this turns out as you wish...as what will make Sue happy...whatever that is.
I am pulling for your happiness...Libby