i would suggest regardless if you can talk with her, to journal, cause not everything you wish to say, will she be open to hearing, but you need to say it... to validate your feelings within, i want to be clear, to write, in divorce, is not about trying to hurt the other person,,, nor selfish, it is about healing, and journaling is a great way to validate, what is going on inside you, i also encourage if this works for you, to post post here, as a way of journalling, no one may reply, for they know its a personal post, of venting,, sharing,,, someone sharing what life is like for them,,,, but they may learn from what you share, though not reply, or you may end up with a discussion by replies.... but though there are things you may need to say to your spouse, and things they may need to hear, that doesn't mean you will be able to say them,, true enough, you should be able to, but could you, is another issue,,, and there are those issues, you could speak about, but should you? journalling fills a wonderful gap, of communication with others, and yourself,,,,
journalling is about knowing yourself better,,, taking time for yourself,,, sharing with others,, yet its really a very unobtrusive way to communicate,, because no one has to read your posts,, its there choice, same way its your choice to write the post.. its there if you have need of it, and its there if someone else has need of it....