Já¥dá,
You advise is fine. You might say something that I didn't think about. Give all you want... I agree with shutting down emtionaly is unhealthy, but I want to feel more then just hurt all the time. I spent enough of my marriage feeling life that. I want to feel more. My thoughts about what you said about your marriage... Physical abuse is just has bad at emtional abuse. They both leave scares. My wife has done both abuses to me for almost the full 14yrs. we were together. I always sucked it up and let go, I didn't want to hurt her. I realized know, I should have left years ago and I'm the one who just got hurt. No one has the right to hurt others. Worthless... You're not. That simple. He just didn't take the time or effort to see. Other people didn't tell you that you were worthless so it must of been him, not you, that was worthless. It's amazing how people can hate so easily, maybe that's why when some cares it stands out so much. chris