this is hard one............ I will ramble , sorry , ........ how blessed are we if that "step parent" is some one that our kids could call mom or dad ? At same time......... omg how dare anyone expect to "replace me" with that title ? I think bottom line is up to our kids, and we shouldnt put pressure on them for what they do call that person........... I think age of child when split counts alot....... my friend is the "step mom" ...... the real mom left when son was 18 months old, my friend is the only mom he knows, he hadnt seen her again until he was 4 yrs old...... my friend is the one that is being a mommy( sperm egg donor drops in for maybe 3 times a yr, he is now 8............. )

When my nieces got married ? Both of their "dads" walked them up the aisle .............