I was in periodically and sat for 10 min or so to see if anyone else would pop in after the 45 mins or so that I chatted . I posted Happy New Year for each time zone as each zone reached its midnight hour but no one else popped in so I must have missed the few that did.

That said I think all of you are correct and I agree it is sad that activity has gone way down. While not pointing any fingers either I would have thought that we could of moved on from the sad events of the middle of this year, as we always had in the past when things got rough.

Contrary to what some have surmised, again not pointing fingers at anyone here, when it comes to community sites like this one, especially so with such an emotionally charged site as this one can be, there will be upheavals. We know this from the 20 years that DCS has been on the web.

I am not sure why we didnt get over the most current upheaval as quickly as any other past upheaval that the site has ever experienced. I have spent many a night trying to figure it all out still to this day.

If I sound agitated about it, well quite frankly I am because this site saved my life and as much as I hate to throw the guilt card out there I just have to say that if this site meant as much to some as it did to me and others that have mentioned that fact above, then I would have thought that they could have moved on from the upheaval, I know that some of us right in the middle of that have, we have made amends not only with ourselves but between each other and speaking for myself I hold no ill will toward anyone here I am just having a hard time understanding it all.

Sorry to rant about it like I have but damn, you know. I can not recall a time where so many didn't, including myself, speak their mind, or have it out with another member or manager, but we all got over it and moved forward with the DCS premise.

With my tenure here at DCS you would think I would be above all this but damn it I love this site, and I love each and every one that I have met here and this site saved my life and I will continue to help out when, where, and how I can.

It is going to take everyone to get this site back to what it once was or to even exceed that but I know that we can do it. I will tell you all, without bragging and not looking for any kind of glory or whatever, that I am and have been working on a new feature rich site for DCS. I have ran into a few snags but as always I will continue to plug away and I will get over those snags as always because I don't give up, I wont give up, I refuse to. Color me tenacious because as many of you already know I am most definitely that.

My only hope is that this new site will give every member here access to all the features, and all the information they need to help them through the divorce process.

Just for the record though, or in case this thought has ever crossed anyone's mind, I am not taking over the site I am merely working to repair the foundational damage that was done due to the mid year upheaval that we unfortunately experienced.

Also I understand that some have moved forward and life no longer permits them to spend the amount of time that they used to here and that is cool, I understand that and love to see that people have made it through and past divorce, not an easy feat so pat yourselves on the back.

I just want to see this site continue, under the DCS premise, based on the founders of this site. I want to see it continue to be the site it once was and more. I want to know that DCS will be here for everyone that needs it, today, tomorrow, and well into the future.

Sorry for the rant, but I needed to get that off my chest, now back to work.

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