I've had two experiences dating women with kids. One of those times I felt like an outsider and like the children never accepted me. In that case it seemed like I always second in line. With the other women, the kids really accepted me and I felt like I was a part of the family. Even though I probally was just as second in line, I didnt feel that way. In fact I loved those kids and really liked having them arround. If she and the kids are including you and you still resent sharing her with them then I'd say yea you might be better off dating someone without kids. Does she have the kids all of the time or is there any time she doesnt. If she doesnt then I'd say thats the time to have her to yourself. Personally, I'd never expect a women to choose between me and her kids. I know who woulod loose. Hope this helps!