This conversation that we are having as to whether homosexuality is a choice or predetermined is a very good one, actually. Since my husband's first
marriage ended that way, I'd say this happens a lot more than most of us realize...that a person changes their sexual preference after marrying and
having a family. I am hoping that we can continue this, since we are on a more appropriate board, and if we all agree that this community is also for
learning, growing, sharing experiences and ideas and, apparently, lively conversation! Clearly, we are on a topic relating to divorce.
I wanted to start a new thread, one that doesn't require scrolling through angry posts. I have a specific question at the end of this...
This conversation originated with a person imposing a personal belief into someone else's situation. I would prefer that my position on this not be
misconstrued, so I have to say that my inclination was to be concerned with the safety and well being of the DCS member and nothing to do with my judgement
of what stbx was doing, so I don't agree with the timing of the original comment.
That said, the theology behind the belief that "homosexuality is a choice" is, to the best of my knowledge, sound. This is the conservative
Christian world view on homosexuality...which perhaps may not be shared by liberal Christians.
Christians do have a commitment to live, and to love, God's law. Obviously all Christians do not share common beliefs...although I dare say we all
believe that ours are the most "biblical". If we did share common beliefs then we would not have denominations splitting between the
conservatives and the liberals, the way the Lutherans and Episcopalians are. This is a critical faith issue at present.
Some place "law" above all. Some place "love" above all. In my somewhat extensive experience in this debate, it seems to me that
placing "love" above all means using creative interpretation of the bible, which defeats the whole purpose.
So.....
The argument that is currently popular, and I have heard it here, is about murderers and pedophiles, and whether they are born that way or it's a choice.
It's my understanding that you can't rehabilitate pedophiles. And I don't know what the statistic are on murderers, but repeat offenders abound
in every criminal area...like DWIs, and certainly murder. Is homosexuality like these things? Does it really hurt people? I think it does sometimes...I
think it broke up our member's family...but I don't think it's inheritently in and of itself harmful, but like everything that is used with bad
judgement, the consequences are very often harmful.
My own experience over the years has confirmed that most of the homosexual people I've been aquainted with do not have happy emotionally balanced lives.
How could you in an environment where you are largely conspicuous and "different". I have heard the comment "why would I choose this
life?" from many. There was a television news show about a guy in the Special Forces, highly decorated and respected in Washington DC, who underwent a
gender change...he was married, but his wife couldn't handle it.
Also, being very active in my church, I know of several individuals who have turned away from gay and lesbian lifestyles. They have done this believing
completely that God is against homosexuality. The ones I know don't seem any happier, but I have certainly heard of success stories.
Overall I'd say it's a combination of many things, that environment as well as biology...nature vs. nurture contributes to these variations from what
our society considers mainstream behavior.
I can't believe I'm saying these things because I am a conservative Christian, but somehow when I see an occasional young child developing
traits of the opposite gender I can't help but wonder if it's something about their self-identity that is as natural as the color of their eyes. You
know they are being persecuted by their peers! I have no doubt that our crazy, unconscienced society will promote anything to make a buck and has a huge
impact on our young kids...and that sexuality is overdone in every way, shape and form to the detriment of us all! And I have no doubt that people go off
the deep end from time to time on crazy self-destructive escapades...destroying everyone in their path. Frankly, I don't want to know about something as
personal as somebody else's sexuality. But at the heart of it all, there are people who just are different.
Something was stated...specifically that if homosexuality was NOT a choice, then it would mean that God made a mistake, which He does not do. But God
made my son with the disability of autism. First question: So if this was not a mistake, is this then what God wanted? Why can't he have a choice,
like the homosexuals, murderers, pedophiles and gambling addicts. (I think all individuals with autism would not want it if they had a choice.)
So, the Christian belief is that being homosexual is a choice. A Christian friend told me that even heterosexual men have to make choices, because men are
not naturally monogamous. It goes against their very nature. For them to do so takes a lot of self-control. LMAO! I'm going to have to stop
here because I'm laughing too hard! Second question: is this true????? Sky




