My GF has two kids and I have none. Every time I want together, we have
to filter it through the kids and I am getting resentful. It is like I don't even matter and I am contemplating giving up on this relationship. She's a great mother and strong woman but I need to be taken care of too. What is your perspective on this?
Also, found this on another site and almost responded to it. I feel the same way as the lady in this letter (as I am in this situation ) and was going to tell her that he is not marriage material so she needs to run. However, after reading it thoroughly, I began to wonder "Is this selfish and jealous?" and, in my own situation, am I being a jerk for feeling the same way? What do you think?:
I am dating a wonderful man for over two years now and I feel like I don't matter. I feel like the things I loved about him the most, I'm starting to hate. He's a single Dad of a 13 & 15 year old girls. They're lovely girls but they're also DADDY's girls! We once had a conversation about kids and where me and my son fit. He said, that his girls where his first priority, then my son, then me, and he comes last. I said,"Ok I get it. I think children should come first but when they say JUMP does he have to say how high." He told me, 'YES'!
It seems like everything he decides to do is based on what the girls want. I asked for us to take a family vacation (his kids and my son) he said he'd check with the girls to see if they want to go. I have been trying to get him to come to California to meet my family, with just the two of traveling. He finally agreed after they said they wanted to go to California.
Every other weekend is dependent on what the girls want to do. The few times that they are at there mother's house they always call because they need something and he'll drop what we are doing and go deliver their 'hairbrush'! I don't want to make it about the girls but we fight a lot about this. I feel awful about it but I just don't feel like I'm important to him and I'm afraid I never will be. Am I selfish? Do I need to work on being more understanding? I don't know what to do?
Also, found this on another site and almost responded to it. I feel the same way as the lady in this letter (as I am in this situation ) and was going to tell her that he is not marriage material so she needs to run. However, after reading it thoroughly, I began to wonder "Is this selfish and jealous?" and, in my own situation, am I being a jerk for feeling the same way? What do you think?:
I am dating a wonderful man for over two years now and I feel like I don't matter. I feel like the things I loved about him the most, I'm starting to hate. He's a single Dad of a 13 & 15 year old girls. They're lovely girls but they're also DADDY's girls! We once had a conversation about kids and where me and my son fit. He said, that his girls where his first priority, then my son, then me, and he comes last. I said,"Ok I get it. I think children should come first but when they say JUMP does he have to say how high." He told me, 'YES'!
It seems like everything he decides to do is based on what the girls want. I asked for us to take a family vacation (his kids and my son) he said he'd check with the girls to see if they want to go. I have been trying to get him to come to California to meet my family, with just the two of traveling. He finally agreed after they said they wanted to go to California.
Every other weekend is dependent on what the girls want to do. The few times that they are at there mother's house they always call because they need something and he'll drop what we are doing and go deliver their 'hairbrush'! I don't want to make it about the girls but we fight a lot about this. I feel awful about it but I just don't feel like I'm important to him and I'm afraid I never will be. Am I selfish? Do I need to work on being more understanding? I don't know what to do?




